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What do you do about mentally abusive parents when you have no other choice?

I ask this question because recently I've had to move back home because of financial reasons. One of the reasons is that I bought my parents house from them and let them live in the property as long as they payed the mortgage. Well come to find out they let the payments get so far behind that the bank is threatening foreclosure. This has forced me to leave my life in California to come back to Florida and straighten the mess out. Both are disabled and in the beginning I was waiting hand and foot on my mother who is recovering from double knee surgery. However I'm constantly being criticized about the smallest insignificant things by my over bearing father who has a major Napoleon complex and my mother is constantly on mood swing central. My deadbeat brother recently moved back in as well and has a child with a deadbeat mother who doesn't even have a high school diploma. When I do snap back in retaliation I'm told that I need to stay in a child's place. Im 34 years old by the way with no kids of my own. It as if they think that they are allowed to say what they want without consequence and then tries to use God as a weapon of defense against me. This household is total chaos and when I'm able I will leave and cut all ties with them. I know it may seem harsh but for my sanity I think Its right. On top of that they still think they are entitled to the sell of the house as well after I took out a mortgage in my name. Then my father will bring up how he paid my rent for a year while I was struggling as an actor and when it seemed as if my career wasn't going anywhere I hear every other day about what monies he sent to me. They didn't pay for my college education nor have I ever been in trouble with the law. Its scary to see how they've digressed into such a state. Am I wrong for my decision?

Public Comments

1. You're 34 years old, how were you forced to move back in with your parents? If they're being abusive leave. There's no reason for you to stay.
2. If I were you I would tell my parents if things don't change you will put the house up for sale and let them find a place to live. Also there is government help now for those whose homes are in foreclosure you just may be able to lower your mortgage payments and save your house. But let them know that if they don't treat you with respect the house is going to go and so are they. Then ask them where would they live without your help. You are the one in charge of the home. They refuse to respect you so you have to get really serious and aggressive about this. You should also let your brother know that if he doesn't start contributing he will also go. Don't allow them to do this to you. You don't deserve it and unfortunately you have to take the reins and take charge and not allow the chaos and the disrespect. I wish you all of the strength and courage that you need to do this. Personally if the respect doesn't start I would go out and put up a for sale sign and let them figure it out. This is absolute abuse and you do have a choice and that is to be strong and not accept this abuse.
3. You seem like a very nice guy. Sometimes peoples families are not the ideal TV families, and it seems your family isn't one of those. I think if you can you should definately leave, anyone would in your situation.